LoveFest 30 Day Relationship Challenge

Posted by: Dr. Justin D'Arienzo, Psy.D., ABPP

Summer LoveFest 30-Day Relationship Challenge

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TikTok Psychologist and Relationship Expert

Dr. Justin D’Arienzo

I can help you improve your relationship by taking our Summer Lovefest 30-day Relationship Challenge. It’s free, and all you have to do is be bold and participate every day. I will give you one challenge based on the psychological science to do as a couple for the next 30 days that will absolutely improve your relationship if you stick with the program. There will be a new activity that should be maintained every day as best you can. If you reading this now, it starts today for you. Be bold and comment every day on the corresponding TikTok video once you’ve successfully completed the challenge. If you are feeling extra bold post a picture of you and your partner completing the challenge and tag me for a chance to be reshared on my page. My wife and I are going to be sharing ours.

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♬ Forever – Labrinth

Day 1: Mindful Conversation: Spend at least thirty minutes
taking a walk together or sitting together and practice mindful conversation. This is an important skill that can deepen communication and connection. The task is to spend today focusing on fully listening to each other without interruption or distraction. Pay attention to the details of what they share and their non-verbal cues. Reflect on what they say before responding thoughtfully. Mindfulness can improve relationship satisfaction and communication (Khaddouma et al., 2015). Khaddouma, A., Gordon, K. C., & Bolden, J. (2015). Zen and the art of sex: examining associations among mindfulness, sexual satisfaction, and relationship satisfaction in dating relationships. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 30(2), 268-285.

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Make time today to spend quality time with your partner! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayone #mindful #conversation #communication #conflictresolution #connection #bold #confidence #walk

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Day 2: Adventure Outing: Plan an adventurous outing that you will do together this weekend, such as hiking, kayaking, or trying a new sport. Engaging in exciting activities together can boost relationship quality (Aron et al., 2013). So be bold and plan something fun for this weekend. Make sure to snap a pic of your adventure and share it with us. Aron, A., Norman, C. C., Aron, E. N., & Lewandowski, G. (2013). Shared self-expanding activities as a means to enhance and maintain passion in romantic relationships. The Wiley-Blackwell Handbook of Couples and Family Relationships, 22-35.

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♬ tvd elena and damon dance – Vampire diaries

Day 3: Love Languages: Do you know your partner’s love language (Chapman, 2015). There are five of them. Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Some people know theirs and some don’t, you can check out Dr. Chapmans book or take an online quiz. Understanding your and your partner’s love language can provide insights into how you and they perceive and receive love and often theirs is different from yours. Tailor your actions to meet your partner’s love language for a day and see the effect it has on your relationship. Chapman, G. (2015). The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. Northfield Publishing.

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♬ Forever – Labrinth

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Day 4: Gratitude Journal Showing gratitude enhances relationship satisfaction and commitment. I challenge you today to start a daily gratitude journal, whether it’s an actual journal or in the notes on your phone. Write down one thing each day that you appreciate about your partner. This can be a small act of kindness, a personality trait, or a shared moment that brought you joy. Feeling grateful for and telling your partner you’re grateful for them every day creates a positive emotional atmosphere so be bold & share what you wrote down today. Make this a daily habit & see how your relationship transforms! (Algoe, 2012; Gordon et al., 2012). Algoe, S. B. (2012). Find, remind, and bind: The functions of gratitude in everyday relationships. Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 6(6), 455-469. Gordon, A. M., Impett, E. A., Kogan, A., Oveis, C., & Keltner, D. (2012). To have and to hold: Gratitude promotes relationship maintenance in intimate bonds. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 103(2), 257.

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How often do you tell your partner you’re thankful for them?! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #gratitude #thankyou #communicate #bold #confidence

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Make this a daily habit & see how your relationship transforms! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #gratitude #thankyou #communicate #bold #confidence #VideoAleatorio

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Day 5: Healthy Debate Engage in a friendly debate on a topic you both find interesting but have differing views on. Be cautious about religious or political debates. This is supposed to be a fun activity. Debate why your favorite candy or favorite sports team is better than theirs. Healthy debates can improve understanding and problem-solving skills in a relationship. Be bold and let me know what you debated about. (Kaufman & Liu, 2014). Kaufman, G., & Liu, X. (2014). Is she worth it? Gender differences in the effects of subjective task values on debate participation. Journal of Educational Psychology, 106(3), 773.

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Be bold & let me know what you debated about! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #debate #healthydebate #communication #connection #problemsolving #bold #confidence

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♬ original sound – Jessica Johnson

Day 6:  Cooking Together. Pick a recipe you both have never tried before and cook it together. Engaging in new shared experiences can stimulate the brain’s reward system, similar to the feeling of falling in love, strengthening your bond (Muise et al., 2019). We’d love to see your meal that you cooked together. It’s Taco Tuesday, so it’s an easy pick. Muise, A., Maxwell, J. A., & Impett, E. A. (2019). What Theories and Methods From Relationship Research Can Contribute to Sex Research. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 48(1), 235-247.

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Celebrate Taco Tuesday by trying to cooo a new recipe together tonight! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #cook #cookingtogether #tacotuesday #bold #confidence

♬ Cooking Time – Lux-Inspira

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Day 7: Compliment Day: Take an extra minute and give your partner genuine compliments for the things they normally do whether big or small or about who they are. Tell them how smart, beautiful, handy, or what a great parent they are. Authentic compliments reinforce positive behavior, enhance self-esteem, and promote a deeper emotional and stronger connection. (Algoe & Zhaoyang, 2016). Make giving at least one compliment a day to each other a new habit. Algoe, S. B., & Zhaoyang, R. (2016). Positive psychology in context: Effects of expressing gratitude in ongoing relationships depend on perceptions of enactor responsiveness. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 11(4), 399-415.

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The simple act of complimenting your partner daily will make a big difference in your relationship! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayseven #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #compliment #bold #confidence

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If only we could see ourselves the way those who love us do… #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #dating #datingadvice #marriageadvice #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #summer #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayseven #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #compliment #bold #confidence #mydearsweetchild #itswhatilivefor #littlemermaid

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 Day 8: Practice Active Listening: Today, when your partner speaks to you, slow down, face them, show empathy, reflect on what they say, and avoid interrupting the flow of their words with your own stories. Active listening promotes understanding and strengthens emotional connection (Gearhart & Bodie, 2011). It’s not an easy task unless you are a psychologist, but I promise you, this skill will pay you significant relationship dividends. 14. Gearhart, C. C., & Bodie, G. D. (2011). Active-Empathic Listening and the Use of Listener Responses. In The Sage Handbook of Interpersonal Communication, 173–199.

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Make your partner feel heard & understood today! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayseven #communicate #activelistening #connection #bold #confidence

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Talk to your partner about your needs! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayseven #communicate #activelistening #connection #bold #confidence #sayyouwantme #iwantyou #forworseorforbetter #taylorswift

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 Day 9: Switch Roles for Freaky Friday:  Spend the day taking over the tasks your partner usually handles. If they do the laundry, you do the laundry for the day. If they drive the kids around town, you drive the kids around town for the day. Switching tasks will provide insight into your partner’s responsibilities and will promote empathy and mutual appreciation. Studies suggest that sharing household chores can lead to a more satisfying and less argumentative relationship. Be bold & put yourself in your partner’s shoes today! (Carlson et al., 2016). Carlson, D. L., Hanson, S., & Fitzroy, A. (2016). The Division of Child Care, Sexual Intimacy, and Relationship Quality in Couples. Gender & Society, 30(3), 442-466.

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Switching tasks for the day will lead to greater appreciation for all your partner does for you! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #daynine #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #empathy #appreciation #householdchores #childcare #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #freakyfriday

♬ Freaky Friday – Instrumental King

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Studies show sharing household chores is essential to ensure a happy relationship! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #daynine #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #empathy #appreciation #householdchores #childcare #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #areacodes

♬ Area Codes x Lollipop by L BEATS – DJ L BEATS

Day 10: Digital Detox: Today is your day to be free from technology as best you can. If you can’t eliminate it completely due to work, children, or other obligations, commit to reducing it by 50%. Hopefully you can make watching this video the last thing you do on social media today. This will encourage more meaningful face-to-face interaction and allow you both to enjoy each other’s undivided attention. Limiting technology use can improve relationship satisfaction (Roberts & David, 2016). Be bold and go out and enjoy the day. Roberts, J. A., & David, M. E. (2016). My life has become a major distraction from my cell phone: Partner phubbing and relationship satisfaction among romantic partners. Computers in Human Behavior, 54, 134-141.

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Whether it’s for a couple hours or a couple days, there is much to be gained from a digital detox! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayten #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #digitaldetox #putyourphonedown #technologyfree #socialmediabreak #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

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Be bold & put your phone down! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayten #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #digitaldetox #putyourphonedown #technologyfree #socialmediabreak #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #kardashian

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 Day 11: Vision Board: Create a vision board together. Write out your joint dreams and aspirations on a white board or piece of paper and hang it up in the house or save them as your screensaver on your phone or computer. This activity will remind you about and help you understand each other’s goals better and align your future plans. Visualizing shared goals will foster better relationship satisfaction and improve your commitment to each other (VanderDrift et al., 2019). Be bold and have that serious conversation with your partner. VanderDrift, L. E., Agnew, C. R., Harvey, S. M., & Warren, J. T. (2019). Whose Intentions Predict? Power Over Condom Use Within Heterosexual Dyads. Health Psychology, 38(10), 904–914.

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Creating a Relationship Vision Board is a fun activity that helps couples bond & communicate at a deeper level! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayeleven #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #commitment #visionboard #future #goals #dreams #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

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Be bold & tag your partner! Making a vision board could be your next date night!! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayeleven #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #commitment #visionboard #future #goals #dreams #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #youmakeme

♬ YOU MAKE ME I Jan Metternich I June 9 – Jan Metternich

 

 Day 12: Establish a Morning Ritual: Create a shared morning ritual you both enjoy from preparing breakfast together to meditating, to having coffee, or going for a run together. Shared rituals will create a sense of belonging and unity and will also increase relationship satisfaction (Saxberg et al., 2018). Be bold & start a new morning ritual this Monday! Saxberg, Y. K., Lyubomirsky, S., Sheldon, K. M., & Boehm, J. K. (2018). Continued Work in Positive Psychology: Contemporary Empirical Advances. In Handbook of Well-Being. DEF Publishers.

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What morning ritual are you going to start doing?! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwelve #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #unity #belonging #morningritual #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

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Make this a daily habit & see how your relationship transforms! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwelve #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #unity #belonging #morningritual #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #goodmood #mileycyrus

♬ i am in a very good mood this morning – user71014733626

 

Day 13: A Walk Down Memory Lane: One of my favorite activities for sure. Spend the evening looking through old photos, reminiscing about shared experiences. Remembering and discussing shared positive memories can strengthen emotional bonds and increase relationship satisfaction (Alea & Vick, 2010). Be bold and share a throwback photo on social media. Can’t wait to walk down memory lane with all of you. Alea, N., & Vick, S. C. (2010). The first sight of love: Relationship-defining memories and marital satisfaction across adulthood. Memory, 18(7), 730–742.

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Take time tonight to scroll through your old photos together! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #daythirteen #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #walkdownmemorylane #photos #memories #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

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Post a Throwback photo this Thursday! #fyp #fypシ #psychologist #psychologistoftiktok #psychologistsoftiktok #relationships #relationshipadvice #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #tipsandtricks #funfacts #summer #lovefest #challenge #daythirteen #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #walkdownmemorylane #photos #memories #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #ohmygawd

♬ OH MA GAWD – meg💌

 

Day 14: Write a Love Letter: Today you are going to write your partner a love letter on pen and paper. Writing a physical letter means so much more than an electronic one. Express your feelings, appreciation, and hopes for your future together, what you are most thankful for about them, and what you love most about them. We know that writing and reading love letters increases feelings of love and relationship satisfaction (Slatcher & Pennebaker, 2006). Be bold and write a love letter. Slatcher, R. B., & Pennebaker, J. W. (2006). How do I love thee? Let me count the words: The social effects of expressive writing. Psychological Science, 17(8), 660–664.

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When was the last time you wrote or received a handwritten letter?! Comment below!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayfourteen #relationshipadvice #communication #intimacy #love #loveletter #handwritten #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Forever – Labrinth

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Grab a pen & paper and start writing 💌 #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayfourteen #relationshipadvice #communication #intimacy #love #loveletter #handwritten #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #fearless #taylorswift

♬ fearless sped up – r & m <3 ⸆⸉

 

Day 15: Positive Reflection: Take turns discussing something positive that happened to you during the day, whether it’s as simple as having no traffic on the way to work this morning or as great as getting a raise. Even focusing on life’s positives with your partner, that have nothing to do with them, encourages a positive perspective, and promotes understanding and intimacy. Studies show that sharing positive experiences enhances relationship satisfaction and commitment (Gable et al., 2013). Be bold and share the good things that happened to you today. Gable, S. L., Reis, H. T., Impett, E. A., & Asher, E. R. (2013). What Do You Do When Things Go Right? The Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Benefits of Sharing Positive Events. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 87(2), 228.

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What’s one good thing that happened to you today?! Comment below!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayfifteen #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #commitment #positive #reflection #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

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Make reflection a daily habit and see how your relationship with yourself & your partner transforms! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayfifteen #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #commitment #positive #reflection #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #thankme

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Day 16: Dance Like Nobody is Watching: Even if you think you have two left feet, try dancing together. It doesn’t have to be complex – just swaying to a favorite song in your living room can be a bonding experience. We know that physical synchrony, like dancing, can enhance partner connection and relationship satisfaction (Tarr et al., 2015). Be bold and dance the night away. Tarr, B., Launay, J., Cohen, E., & Dunbar, R. (2015). Synchrony and exertion during dance independently raise pain threshold and encourage social bonding. Biology Letters,11(10):20150767.

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♬ Stolen Dance (Instrumental) – Milky Chance

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Be bold & dance the night away 🕺💃 #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daysixteen #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #confidence #intimacy #dance #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #dancethenight #dualipa

♬ Dance The Night (From Barbie The Album) – Dua Lipa

 

Day 17: Game Night: You have two options. Either host a couples’ game night or make it just the two of you. Play a board, card, or video games . Playing games together provides an opportunity to bond, laugh, and create shared memories. Research has found that having shared leisure activities increases relationship satisfaction (Crawford et al., 2013). Be bold. Couples that play together stay together. Crawford, D. W., Houts, R. M., Huston, T. L., & George, L. J. (2013). Compatibility, Leisure, and Satisfaction in Marital Relationships. Journal of Marriage and Family, 64(2), 433–449.

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What’s your favorite game to play?! Comment below!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayseventeen #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #love #games #boardgames #videogames #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Game – Playzy

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Day 18: Stargazing: Tonight, spend the evening stargazing. If there is cloud cover, watch the clouds or just get outside together and enjoy the sounds of nature. These peaceful activities will provide a change of pace and foster deep conversations. Being in nature boosts well-being and improves relationship satisfaction (Capaldi et al., 2014). Be bold and find a shooting star together. Capaldi, C. A., Dopko, R. L., & Zelenski, J. M. (2014). The relationship between nature connectedness and happiness: a meta-analysis. Frontiers in Psychology, 5, 976.

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Let me know if you see a shooting star 💫 #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #dayeighteen #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #stargazing #nature #peace #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #shootingstar

♬ STARGAZING – Instrumental – DJ Boomin

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♬ original sound – riri 🙂

Day 19: Share Your Dreams: Sharing your dreams and aspirations with your partner fosters mutual support and brings you closer as a couple. Studies show that couples who discuss and support each other’s dreams have higher relationship satisfaction (VanderDrift et al., 2019). Be bold, and share your dreams with your partner and listen to theirs. Dream big! VanderDrift, L. E., Agnew, C. R., Harvey, S. M., & Warren, J. T. (2019). Whose Intentions Predict? Power Over Condom Use Within Heterosexual Dyads. Health Psychology, 38(10), 904–914.

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♬ Lucid Dreams – Instrumental – DJ Boomin

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What’s your dream life look like?! Comment below!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daynineteen #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #support #dreams #aspirations #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #foreverandever #amen

♬ Forever and Ever, Amen – Randy Travis

 

Day 20: Learn Together: Today, choose a topic neither of you knows much about. Spend the day researching or reading about it. Shared learning fosters intellectual intimacy and a sense of shared accomplishment (Liu et al., 2017). Be bold and learn something new together. A smart couple better navigates the world together. Liu, C. H., Nam, H. H., Campbell, A. T., Conroy, D. E., & Padilla, R. (2017). Understanding Relationship Quality and Marital Satisfaction in Couples With Chronic Illness: The Role of Dyadic Coping. Health Psychology, 36(8), 770–779.

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♬ Education – BlueWhaleMusic

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Remember – a smart couple better navigates the world together!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwenty #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #education #intellect #accomplishment #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #shocking

♬ original sound – Julian Hagins

Day 21: Sharing Fears: Discuss your fears and insecurities with your partner. Your fears may be about intimacy and rejection or even spiders.  This exercise will promote vulnerability and deepen your emotional connection. Sharing fears enhances trust and intimacy. (Aron et al., 2013). Be bold and get vulnerable. Aron, A., Norman, C. C., Aron, E. N., & Lewandowski, G. (2013). Shared self-expanding activities as a means to enhance and maintain passion in romantic relationships. The Wiley-Blackwell Handbook of Couples and Family Relationships, 22-35.

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Face your fears together! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyone #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #trust #intimacy #fears #insecurities #vulnerability #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Epic Music(863502) – Draganov89

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Be bold & comment your biggest fear! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyone #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #trust #intimacy #fears #insecurities #vulnerability #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #spiders

♬ Two Moons by BoyWithUke – boywithuke

 

Day 22: Movie Night:  For tonight, plan a movie night with your sweetheart where you both choose a movie to watch together. Do it up with popcorn and a cozy blanket. Shared leisure activities promote bonding and increase relationship satisfaction (Crawford et al., 2013). Be bold…lights, camera, action…boom. Crawford, D. W., Houts, R. M., Huston, T. L., & George, L. J. (2013). Compatibility, Leisure, and Satisfaction in Marital Relationships. Journal of Marriage and Family, 64(2), 433–449.

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Comment your favorite movie!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentytwo #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #movienight #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Intro – The xx

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Remember to pick a movie you BOTH want to watch!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentytwo #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #movienight #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ suara asli – 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐞. – 𝟑𝟎𝟑 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐞.

Day 23: Acts of Service. Perform an act of service for your partner. This could be anything from doing a chore they dislike to cooking their favorite meal. Acts of service will show your love and appreciation improving relationship satisfaction (Chapman, 2015). Be bold and service your partner. Chapman, G. (2015). The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. Northfield Publishing.

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Be bold & comment what you did for your partner today!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentythree #relationshipadvice #lovelanguage #actsofservice #love #appreciation #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Epic Emotional – AShamaluevMusic

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What’s one chore you can’t stand to do?! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentythree #relationshipadvice #lovelanguage #actsofservice #love #appreciation #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #dirtydishes

♬ original sound – Tiktok / IG strategy 🚀

Day 24: Outdoor Activity: Today, engage in an outdoor activity together such as cycling, hiking, golfing, or picnicking. Make sure it’s something that you both enjoy. Engaging in outdoor activities together promotes wellbeing and improves relationship quality (Capaldi et al., 2014). Be bold and get outside together. Capaldi, C. A., Dopko, R. L., & Zelenski, J. M. (2014). The relationship between nature connectedness and happiness: a meta-analysis. Frontiers in Psychology, 5, 976.

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Comment your favorite outdoor activity!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyfour #relationshipadvice #connection #outdoor #activity #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Outdoors – Acoustic Guitar Chill

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Remember to pick an activity you BOTH enjoy!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyfour #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #outdoor #activity #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #biking

♬ original sound – baby hilton

 

Day 25: Home Spa Day: Today, have a home spa day where you both bathe together and take turns giving each other a massage. This intimate and relaxing activity will strengthen your bond and reduce stress; and who knows, it may result in something more. Physical touch enhances partner connection and relationship satisfaction (Debrot et al., 2013). Be bold. Couples that get wet together stay together. Debrot, A., Schoebi, D., Perrez, M., & Horn, A. B. (2013). Touch as an Interpersonal Emotion Regulation Process in Couples’ Daily Lives: The Mediating Role of Psychological Intimacy. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 39(10), 1373–1385.

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Be bold & send this to your partner 😉 #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyfive #relationshipadvice #connection #intimacy #spaday #bubblebath #massage #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Spa Music – SPA

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Make this a daily habit & see how your relationship transforms! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyfive #relationshipadvice #connection #intimacy #spaday #bubblebath #massage #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Beyonce x My Husband x Casa Di Remix – CasaDi

 

Day 26: Bucket List: Make a joint bucket list of things you’d like to do together in the future. Maybe it’s jumping out of a plane or traveling to Turks and Caicos. It can be anything. It’s your list. This activity will create a shared vision and excitement for future adventures, and joint goal-setting will promote partnership and enhance relationship satisfaction (VanderDrift et al., 2019). Be bold, start that bucket list and let your dreams take flight. VanderDrift, L. E., Agnew, C. R., Harvey, S. M., & Warren, J. T. (2019). Whose Intentions Predict? Power Over Condom Use Within Heterosexual Dyads. Health Psychology, 38(10), 904–914.

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Be bold & comment what’s on your bucket list!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentysix #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #excitement #bucketlist #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Adventure – André Branney

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Making a bucket list together will create shared vision & excitement for your future adventures! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentysix #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #excitement #bucketlist #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #perfect

♬ original sound – kardashianshulu

 

Day 27: Sweet Suggestions: Today you will share some constructive feedback with your partner about your partner. This is vital for having a healthy and flourishing relationship, but how it’s presented is just as vitally important. Choose a quiet and relaxed time today to share and receive feedback without being offensive or defensive. Give your partner a grow and a glow, meaning tell them what you want them to do more of and less of. Be bold and help each other grow. Overall, N. C., & McNulty, J. K. (2017). What type of communication during conflict is beneficial for intimate relationships?. Current Opinion in Psychology, 13, 1-5.

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Be bold and practice giving & receiving criticism from each other today! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyseven #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #constructivecriticism #glow #grow #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Forever – Labrinth

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Sharing constructive feedback with your partner is vital for having a healthy & flourishing relationship but remember – don’t be offensive or act defensive! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyseven #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #constructivecriticism #glow #grow #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology #fyp #judging

♬ original sound – joyyyceee

Day 28: Create a Playlist. Today, compile songs that are meaningful to your relationship and listen to them together. Make sure you include that special song that reminds you both of your courtship. If you are married, include your wedding song. Shared musical experiences stimulate special memories and strengthen emotional bonds. (Hove & Risen, 2009). Be bold, and rock out to your playlist. Hove, M. J., & Risen, J. L. (2009). It’s all in the timing: Interpersonal synchrony increases affiliation. Social Cognition, 27(6), 949-960.

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Do you think sharing music should be a love language?! Comment below!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyeight #relationshipadvice #intimacy #connection #music #playlist #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Epic Music(863502) – Draganov89

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Be bold & make a playlist with or for your partner! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyeight #relationshipadvice #intimacy #connection #music #playlist #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Golden Hour: Piano Version – Andy Morris

 

Day 29: Date Night. We are winding down our relationship challenge. So let’s keep it simple today. Prepare a special dinner and enjoy a date night at home. Date nights reignite romance and strengthen bonds. It’s important to make dating each other a regular habit which will improve relationship quality and keep that special spark alive (Stanley et al., 2014). Be bold. Couples that date each other stay together!. Stanley, S. M., Rhoades, G. K., & Whitton, S. W. (2014). Commitment: Functions, formation, and the securing of romantic attachment. Journal of Family Theory & Review, 2(4), 243-257.

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♬ Forever – Labrinth

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Dating keeps the spark alive ✨ #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daytwentyeight #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #datenight #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Makeba – Jain

 

Day 30: We made it to the final relationship challenge. Reflection. Today, share with each other and us which activities you enjoyed the most, what changed and what you will keep doing differently or better. Discuss your future together and visualize where you want to be by next year, and make plans to achieve it. Future planning fosters partnership and enhances relationship satisfaction (VanderDrift et al., 2019). Be bold, love each other, and stay the course. VanderDrift, L. E., Agnew, C. R., Harvey, S. M., & Warren, J. T. (2019). Whose Intentions Predict? Power Over Condom Use Within Heterosexual Dyads. Health Psychology, 38(10), 904–914.

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#fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daythirty #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #reflection #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ Epic Emotional – AShamaluevMusic

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Be bold & share your thoughts!!! #fyp #fypシ #drdarienzo #darienzopsychology #psychologist #clinicalpsychologist #relationshipdoctor #dating #datingadvice #marriage #marriageadvice #couples #couplestherapy #funfacts #tipsandtricks #summer #lovefest #challenge #daythirty #relationshipadvice #communication #connection #intimacy #reflection #bold #confidence #evolutionarypsychology

♬ The Journey – Sol Rising