How to spot a narcissist? Dr. D’Arienzo, Clinical Psychologist here. I am going to share five signs that indicated you might be dealing with a narcissist. Receiving criticism: Their fragile self-esteem can’t even handle constructive criticism. Feedback seems like a direct attack. Losing Control: When they lose control of situations and people around them, they feel powerless because it contradicts their grandiose image of themselves. Not being admired: They thrive on admiration and attention and when they are ignored and don’t get what they think they deserve they pout, and get frustrated and angry. Being exposed: They create a false persona to maintain their inflated self-image but when someone exposes their true self, vulnerabilities or manipulations, they go on the attack. Losing a competition: They think they are superior to others and when someone beats them, they feel inferior, so they react with rage, make excuses, and “file away” a serious resentment. Losing is personal to a narcissist. Obviously, we all have some of these traits, but if you’re narcissist, you would have most of these and to the extreme. If that’s you or your in a relationship with one, get professional help.
The concept of a midlife crisis is a well known problem that seems to occur during, well, around the middle of someone’s life. The midlife crisis can be defined as ‘personal turmoil and sudden changes in personal goals and lifestyle’ (Collin, 1979). Many people associate death of a friend or family member as a cause.
Whether the news of divorce is sudden or not so sudden, there are seven resiliency factors to aid you through this process. These factors contribute to stability for both individuals and families after divorce. If you can identify and grasp these areas to cope with your divorce early on, you will be able to better your parenting and co-parenting skills as well. Dr. D’Arienzo can assist you in finding resilience to become closer to family and friends throughout your divorce process. Take our parent education and family stabilization course or high conflict course to find out more about effective coparenting.
Divorce shares very similar patters of grief when losing a loved one to death. With the help of Kubler Ross, Paul Bohannan, and Stanley Hagemeyer, a collection of divorce phases has been created to move you through the emotional processes of divorce. Though every divorce is unique, these models lead to a divorcing persons transformation from their married to new independent self. Dr. D’Arienzo, after working with thousands of divorcing and divorced individuals, is able to get you to the point of being adaptable to the single life, independent, and self-supportive. Take one of our divorce courses or high conflict courses to improve your coparenting relationship.
The Golden Egg March 21, 2022 Have you ever heard of the golden egg? It must be protected at all costs. Think about nearly every romantic fairytale you’ve ever heard of, talked about or that’s been written – regardless of culture. If we drill down to the root of the story, it’s about a wealthy […]
Establishing Limits on Kids Technology Use March 9, 2022 Why is establishing limits on kids technology use so important?! Well, kids little brains are more susceptible to social influence than adults. Starting around the age of 10 to 12, children’s brains undergo a major shift that causes them to seek social rewards – which means […]
The Eye of the Storm January 26, 2022 A few weeks ago, I was in the kitchen and my daughter Julia – who is in the eleventh grade – entered and she was on the verge of tears. She said “Dad, I’m so overwhelmed about exams. I have so much to study and I think […]
Overcoming Traumatic Memories January 12, 2021 Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) have received increasing attention in recent years. Trauma occurs when one is exposed to a distressing event. Individuals who have experienced a traumatic event can often have troubling and distressing symptoms – resulting in the diagnosis of PTSD. These symptoms can include […]
A New You in 2022 December 29, 2021 Did you know that only 8% of people maintain their New Year’s Resolutions from January all the way to December? Chances are you are one of the 92% hoping this year you’ll be the 8%. In the spirit of New Year’s resolutions, I wanted to share a […]
The Greatest Gift December 15, 2021 It’s the holiday season and if you’re like me, you’re around a lot of family this time of year. As a psychologist, I hear about all the burdens that families bring over the holidays – such as people bringing their dogs to an event without asking permission, grandparents micromanaging […]