Posted by: Dr. Justin D'Arienzo, Psy.D., ABPP
Article, Marriage Counseling in Jacksonville FL was written by our Masters Psychology Student, Doug Robinson in October 2012. The article is provided for educational purposes and to determine whether couples counseling or marital counseling is right for you. Marriage Counseling is available in Jacksonville, Florida at DPG.
Marriage is the cornerstone of relationships and marriage is probably the most important relationship to most. Marriage holds the key to discovery to many important values that are critical to our own personal growth and understanding of who we are. Marriage reaches the depth of our emotions that other relationships fail to do. Marriage is the “teacher” and we are the students. Marriage is critical because it teaches us very important lessons about ourselves. Marriage is rich in emotions because the trust that is created in marriage reaches a level unprecedented anywhere else. If marriage is the cornerstone then trust is the pillar and it provides a pathway to love and love is the deepest of all emotions. A loving marriage can provide so much happiness and richness in our lives and helps us to live a more fulfilling life.
To build trust in marriage you must be sensitive to yours and to another’s feelings. So much has been shared. This is where we become the student and it may mean that we must let go sometimes of control which can cripple trust. Control can be born out of fear and anxiety and it may reveal itself in several different ways, usually as some odd behavior such as a change in attitude and routine, jealousy, self centeredness, resentment, moodiness, criticism, disrespect, addiction and anger just to name a few. There are many different levels of control and the intensity associated with control can change as well. Control can be a subtle change in behavior where you or your partner may think that something just isn’t quite right and then dismay it as “something he or she is going through”. Control can lead to abusive and hateful language which, can grip everyone in fear. Finally, control can lead to physical abuse. At this point it has reached a dangerous level and has gone too far and help is desperately needed. We reach a point of confusion and ask why and how did this happen.
Many of us start out with wonderful intentions and never realize how our childhood development may play such a huge role in our adult lives. We are raised in households that have love and support and there are some of us raised in unstable and angry households. We carry these deep rooted seeds with us and over the years the seeds begin to grow inside us and eventually reveal themselves. When behavior changes and things begin to get out of control and realize that we have dragged this on way too far do we finally stop and say enough is enough, I need help.
Your psychologist, psychotherapist, marriage counselor, couples therapist or life coach can help you identify and understand the issues that are causing the conflict within yourself or with a family member. Your psychologist, psychotherapist, marriage counselor, couples therapist, and life coach can determine the origin of behavior and how specific stimuli that are found within the current home or work environment are triggering unconscious thoughts that cause the negative reactions and self destructive behaviors. Get help and re-gain control of the most important relationship in your life.
At the D’Arienzo Psychological Group, we offer marriage counseling and couples counseling by licensed professionals with decades of experience. We know how to get your relationship back on track. We have counseling and therapy available that is provided by licensed mental health counselors, a licensed clinical social worker, and a licensed psychologist all of whom are Jacksonville, FL relationship experts. Call us today for help with your relationship at 904-379-8094.